Family Begins Before Birth

Somewhere along the line, commitment to family became optional, and children became something you only wanted if you could have the RIGHT children.

Society has instituted such formalities as marriage to give a family some stability. To provide a foundation within which children can be welcome without question.

My highly unpopular opinion is that commitment to a child should start at the moment you engage in behavior that could result in a child. I believe in chastity, I believe in fidelity, and I believe that children are a good thing, not an unwanted burden.

Our son was diagnosed with leukemia at the age of 7. We did not decide then that we'd really rather not deal with a child with a serious illness and terminate his life, or abandon him. When our daughter Sidney was diagnosed with a far more serious condition prior to her birth, we treated her the same as we had our son - we sought the best care we could for her, hoped and prayed for her, and grieved when she could not live.

Challenges in life are not optional. They WILL come, and we cannot control what they will be. Aborting a baby does not remove a problem, it just changes the nature of it, and removes all of the good things from the problem. Problems teach us lessons, and bring us unexpected blessings in the end. Attempting to avoid the problem no matter who it hurts does not remove the problem, it just makes it into something else that we cannot control, and removes the blessing.

When Kevin and I decide to have another baby, we decide then and there that whoever comes will be welcome in our home, for as long as they can stay. If they have problems, we'll love and care for them anyway - after all, every single one of our kids has brought troubles with them. But they have all given us something in return also, that we'd not have gotten any other way, and which makes us better people, and enriches our lives.

Family loves, and accepts those things which were not a product of choice. A strong family is committed to their children, no matter what, and that commitment begins from the moment of conception, not later.

Written by Laura Wheeler
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